WhenYour Daughter Turned Out Dyke

Sexual orientation caused more environmental factors and traumatic. Genetic factors contribute only 3-5 percent, said clinical psychologist Lita Ivory, citing the American Psychiatric Association study.

Choice of sexual orientation, with a lesbian or gay, can be formed even as a teenager. Especially to children who do not get proper parenting at home. Teens who do not have a figure or a comfortable environment at home, then it will look outside. Immediate environment was the one who will shape the character and personality.

Most parents will try for his son to change their sexual orientation to heterosexual is selected as the environment at home. Like Mb, parents Mr. (15), junior high school student in Depok are having an affair with taekwondo teacher daughter, Sj (26). Worried by her son, Mb attempt to provide sexual orientation therapy to Mr at Home Social Protection of Children (RSPA) through the National Commission for Child Protection.

Preferred mode teen lesbians parents are not wrong. Because it is therapeutic to be the last way that parents can do to cope with a lesbian child. However, therapy is only slightly helpful. Preventive measures with proper parenting more effective.

"Treatment here is shifting the mindset therapy by psychologists. Because of that form of sexual orientation is a choice of thinking myself. However, the therapy without awareness of the self does not work," said Lita.

The individual must have the awareness to change the mindset. This is where the important role of religious education. Sexual orientation is influenced by self-formation, character, and religion. Therefore, errors of this establishment from the beginning that's what makes a child does not have enough information and the right to determine their sexual orientation.

"Teenagers are still unstable. He will be confused if not guided constantly by his parents when starting to like the opposite sex," he added.

So what should parents do if it found the child a homosexual? Lita suggested:

1. Accept reality. Parents must be willing and able to accept the fact that her son has a sexual orientation different from it. Homosexuality, for example, by choosing to be lesbian or gay.

2. Realizing the error. Parents also need to realize and accept that this child's sexual orientation is the cause of the error pattern of his players. Realize that parents do not give full and proper attention to adolescents. Or, parents are not keen in selecting and placing children in their social environment.

3. Accept the child as it is. Teens can choose their sexual orientation. If in fact the child to be lesbian or gay, which affected the environment, parenting mistakes at home or traumatic childhood, accept the child as it is.

4. Finding the right solutions. Think and analysis by communicating to children how to cope with this situation. Find and select the most appropriate manner. Separating the child from the couple lesbinya also be one way. However, do it slowly, not with extreme action.

"Separation with lesbian couples need to be done, but slowly. If not, it will cause a new trauma. Children may rebel perform unexpected actions and reckless act with her partner," said Lita.

5. Do therapy. Further measures could meet with psychologists to do therapy to children. However, the success rate of small, especially if it does not appear in the self-consciousness of the child. This therapy will not be effective if enforced, especially if children are to choose their sexual orientation.

Appropriate parenting for teens can keep you out of tricky situations such as this.

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Confidence Move Pinkan Mambo?

JAKARTA - At Idul Fitri day, the mother Pinkan Mambo _Deetje, even sad. The singer is reportedly running with actually convert.

"Lebaran is bleak for me. Child I (Pinkan) to convert.'s Brother and sister I am not Pinkan more, more concerned," said Deetje found at his residence in Bukit Nusa Indah residential, Serua, Jombang, Ciputat, Monday (20 / 9 / 2010).

He admitted that he had never seen with my own eyes when their children go to Church. As far as he knew, Pinkan already started to learn his new convictions since April or May 2010.

"But precisely around June 2010, I came to her house. Pinkan maid outfit said it was his Church. Every Sunday Pinkan always go to church every morning," explained Deetje.

He's not sure whether Pinkan moved conviction because his girlfriend is named Steven. But the impulse to believe that her daughter's taxable Deetje witchcraft.

"He's got magic, because Pinkan people who can not be affected. The evidence of two assistants also got magic," he explained.

Besides Steven, Deetje got word that two lawyers Pastor and also affecting children. No doubt, as a parent he would find two people who had made her son turn away from previous convictions.

"I believe hypnosis Pinkan affected than men," he said.

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Editors Teen Blogger Indonesia (BIT) Saying Good-day Raya Idul Fitri 1429

Editors Teen Blogger Indonesia (BIT) Saying Good-day Raya Idul Fitri 1429

11 months much has been spoken wordsand posed no any remedy,
11 months a lot of behaviors that have been madenot all fun and created
11 months a lot of complaints, hatred, liesbecome a part ofLet us forgive, apologize and unseen

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Story My Ramadan This and Last Year

Now in 2010, I moved 19 years old, now I am 18 years old. Age that it was time I was an adult, yes "UP!".

Ramadan ago I left the sin that so far has not been paid, the year 2009 yesterday I canceled without cause as many as seven fast days. It's my fault I just know, still very much a mistake as I did, I realized no that, which I do not know. Story My Ramadan This and Last Year.

I'm not sure I pay how fasting errors last year, O God, Show me how to fix the mistake yesterday. O Allah do hearts and minds blank me.

Error unpaid yesterday, today I make a sin again, I do not pray at dawn. Oh God ... so many sins that I created. Not to mention my nafsyu dizziness so strongly for breaking the fast is not on time. Not to mention the increasingly wild sex nafsyu. Story My Ramadan This and Last Year. Oh God ... This nafsyu is lower. Give me the strength to fight it.

Ramadan this time, I want to fill with good things, positive, do not let yesterday's mistakes happening again now. I want to be better. Hopefully.

Hopefully my target as much as 5X Quran complete reading in the month of  Ramadan this time is reached, hopefully, I can be consistent, can continue, istiqomah.

Now my grave mistakes before, I open a new page, I want better now than last year. O Allah, strengthen the heart sya. Hopefully!

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Poetry Ramadan

Poetry Ramadan

There is a red day
Fragrance fragrance in the earth where all the time
Because that's when the Khaliq abundant graciousness
Fused at the core of all life

It is Ramadan
He bertelaga nodes
The water pearls maghfiroh
Gericiknya dhikr and tadarrus
Tepianya gentle prayer, quietly and letting the heart
Who does not want to be a fish?
Come swim with lust silence
In order for every fin we're not broken in vain

He secret
Not just hungry, thirsty
But that's really the essence of love
And one way of Allah spoken with
Due to the hungry and thirsty
We can be more aware that we do not haves
Can better understand
That we are nothing more than a grain of dust
Among his kemahaluasan

He should be missed
Because he is more

On the horizon bertebar forgiveness, grace
And all good
Also nuzulul qur'an and lailatur qodar

Poetry Ramadan

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ISRAEL IS REAL TERRORIST

Amin Fatah Mascan : Unbelievers are the hands of demons, a mission to mislead people from the path of righteousness and bring to the valley of hell fire. Both Christians and Jews into the context of the infidels, they will not give up the child according to adam ideology teachings of the Koran, this is a statement that expressed by the Koran. ISRAEL IS REAL TERRORIST.

Currently through the emergence of Israeli military aggression into Gaza, to show the truth of the expression above. Zionist soldiers devastated Palestinian residents who until now has claimed thousands of civilians, most of them are children. Attack on Palestine should not enter the war in the context of Israel versus Hamas, as they claim they are, but non-Muslim opponents of Islam. Because the reality of the majority of victims in the field speak of this attack were civilians who did not know the conflict between Israel and the Hamas.

Saturday, January 10, 2009 Java Pos newspaper proclaiming the tragedy that killed 30 civilians, begins on January 4, then, a number of Israeli troops evacuated some 110 citizens of Palestine into a house in Zaetun. Ironically after 24 hours sedadu membrondong Zionist bullets into the house, cash for 30 residents and several people were wounded in the action. But what Israel's response? They admitted to not knowing the problem.

The author agrees that the West and Israel known as The Real Terrorists, as heralding an alliance digembor Ponorogo students in action long march through the city several days ago. Apart from the cases that have killed dozens of people on top, America and Israel through the support of President George Bush has meluluh lantakkan Muslim country, Iraq last year, just because of allegations of storing weapons of mass destruction that until now there has not been proven. If calculated already berepa thousand residents who were killed by Israel and its allies acted, a crime victim if diprosentase with Imam Samudra, cs, certainly more corpses who died at the hands of Zionists and their allies. Whichever is more appropriate so-called terrorists, Amrozi cs what Israel? Muslim or infidel?

Essentially Zionist soldiers into Gaza invasion is the destruction of Muslims are invisible. On the other hand they also use tersenbunyi way in breaking down the generations Mohammed and formed embryos syaithaniah on this earth. Through the media, both print and electronic information access as well as teach them the world community cultures in contrast with Islamic doctrine. Juvenile delinquency, the action scenes of pornography or sexually arousing and increase in cases of sexuality in the archipelago is part of the paradigm of the influence of western culture. This is a far cry from the conditions surrounding the sixties and, where television has not flourished in plosok Indonesia. At that time whistle to a girl only, is assumed as a despicable act that violates the norms of society and religion, as where the stories of women who never breast-feeding author. But as where to this time, not just whistle, held hands, hugged, tandem, making out as the fairness of young people appreciated the moment.

In the economic sphere too, with its ally Israel to educate people of the world with the concepts of transactions that harm other parties to get their profit maximization. For example the practice of usury, monopoly of trade and other fraud-deception. Through the media, they also cultivate a negative image of Islam. Religion-dengunkan didengung Muhammad as a terrorist religion and conservative, although its existence Islam is a religion-friendly and have flexibility over the times. ISRAEL IS REAL TERRORIST.
As Muslims, we should be wary of attacks, either physical or west that leads to destruction of Islamic ideology. But the invasion idieologi should take priority, given the system that applied more subtle, so many Muslims who do not feel oppressed by them. Snap!!

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Adolescent Sexual Behavior in Indonesia

Jakarta, the current behavior of the youth had been different from the interaction of teenagers a few years ago. Survey data on adolescent sexual behavior are also the result is quite astonishing. Adolescent Sexual Behavior in Indonesia.

"One of the key from the handling of adolescent behavior problems is approaching relationships with peers (peer group). Because the primary key is the peer group," says DR Dr. Rachmat Sentika Tb, SpA, MARS in a press conference of the National Movement of Maternal and Child Health toward the achievement of the MDGs in 2015, at the Hotel Millennium, Jakarta, Wednesday (23/06/2010).

Dr Rachmat said based on a survey of health
adolescent reproductive conducted in 2007 adolescents aged 15-19 years both sons and daughters not a few who have had sexual intercourse.

Data on 10 833 male youth aged 15-19 years showed:

1. Approximately 72 percent are dating
2. Approximately 92 percent had never been kissed
3. Approximately 62 percent had been groping couples
4. Approximately 10.2 percent had had sexual intercourse.


While the results of a survey of 9344 young women aged 15-19 years obtained data:

1. Approximately 77 percent are dating
2. Approximately 92 percent had never been kissed
3. Approximately 62 percent had been groping couples
4. Approximately 6.3 percent had had sexual intercourse.


The doctor who also joined in the Team of Experts on Child Protection Commission said there are three ways this can be done to prevent or cope with adolescent behavior problems, namely:

1. Approaching from the adolescent peer group itself.
2. Restrict the circulation of pornography and porno action.
3. Improving communication between parent and child.

Adolescent period is usually marked by a process of puberty. Puberty experienced by these adolescents will carry physical and emotional changes are quite dramatic, which might be scary for children who are not ready.

Also in this period, usually characterized by the high curiosity of teenagers and young people more likely to trust peer group compared with the parents.

Make sure teens know to whom he should talk about something embarrassing or need help from adults. Therefore, if the relationship and communication between parent and child well maintained, the sexual behavior of adolescents who deviate can be avoided. By, Vera Farah Bararah: Adolescent Sexual Behavior in Indonesia.

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Conference 100 Years Muhammadiyah Non-Smoking

Conference 100 Years Muhammadiyah Non-Smoking. Rector UMY, Husni Amriyanto, Msi confess, peberlakuan kawasanbebas UMY cigarettes on campus is not easy.

Amriyanto-Husni, MSI, Vice Rector of the Univ. Muhammadiyah Yoyakarta (UMY) states that A century Muhammadiyah Muhammadiyah Congress in 2010 is a Congress that is free from tobacco smoke.

"Because we have a Rector who set the ban on smoking in the campus area UMY, including the guest" Husni Then the light.

In the event halaqah "Tobacco Control in the environmental impact of Muhammadiyah" in the Office of PP Muhammadiyah, Yogyakarta Jl Cik Di Tiro, Tuesday (15/12) Husni claimed that peberlakuan kawasanbebas UMY cigarettes on campus is not easy.

"Is implemented, even in stages, beginning first by banning smoking in all roofed buildings, now applies to all regional campuses' light Husni.

The challenge faced by Husni UMY also not easy, because cigarette manufacturers are always offered a variety of sponsorships and scholarships.

"But we prohibit tobacco sponsorship and scholarships declined from cigarette manufacturers" said Husni. "In fact they are willing to donate a basketball court alone, 25 million per month," continued Husni.

Sourch Hidayatullah. "Why is the campus like Pelita Harapan or National Univeersity of Singapore's campus is certainly not Islam can implement non-smoking areas, why can not we?" Said Husni later. Conference 100 Years Muhammadiyah Non-Smoking.

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Free Teen Sex Indonesia Rampant

Free Teen Sex Indonesia Rampant. Parents who do not shudder to know where the data about free sex teen Indonesia today below. Free sex really has become a regular thing! How do I just went? Research in various countries found that adolescents will avoid involvement with free sex, if they can talk about sex with gentlemen. This means that parents need to be sexuality educators for their children! We have been ready, the parents become sexuality educators for our children? How smooth tongue-tied when we are not to be indecent to talk with our children? 

Discover the answer in the event workhsop Salamaa 1 to 3 June 2007.
And to find more complete data about the behavior of free teen sex today, please refer to the article below. 

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KH Abdul Rashid Abdullah Safii looks very uneasy. Leader of the Islamic Education Foundation As-Syafi'iyah provides several pieces of newspaper clippings. "Please read this. I do not know what happened to this nation, "he said briefly. Kiai Rashid did not say much, but his face showed how he was really worried that the mass media. Free Teen Sex Indonesia Rampant.

Copy of media clippings, when I read, it is very troubling. Media Indonesia (6 / 1) cited Antara news agency wrote, "85 Percent of Teens 15 Years Sex." Warta Kota (11 / 2) gave the title, "Half of Students Cianjur Ngesek". Then, Republika newspaper published March 1, 2007 wrote, "Sexually Transmitted Disease Threatens Anyone." Also in the news are written, "Almost 50 percent of Indonesian female adolescent sexual intercourse outside marriage." 

News in Republika quoted survey results Indonesian Planned Parenthood Association (IPPA). Surveys conducted in 2003 in five cities, including Bandung, Jakarta and Yogyakarta. IPPA survey results, which also quoted by Media Indonesia, said also that as many as 85 percent of adolescents aged 13-15 years admitted having sex with their boyfriends. The study was conducted on 2005 respondents terhadap2.488 in Tasikmalaya, Cirebon, Singkawang, Palembang, and Kupang. 

Ironically, according to Executive Director of IPPA, Inne Silviane, sex is done in your own home-house where they took refuge. As many as 50 percent of teens admitted to watching pornographic media, including VCDs. From the study it became known, 52 percent who understands how pregnancy can occur. 

Free Teen Sex Indonesia Rampant. Another study conducted Annisa Foundation, as quoted by Warta Kota. Reported, 42.3 percent of junior high and high school students in Cianjur have sexual intercourse. According to their confessions, the relationship was done like the same sex love, and even some who have multiple sexual partners. This research was conducted Annisa Foundation (AF) in July-December 2006 to the 412 respondents, who came from 13 secondary schools and private land. 

Laila Sukmadewi, AF Executive Director, said sex outside marriage is generally done because it likes the same respondents liked. Only about 9 percent with economic reasons. "So, rather than economic reasons. Even more alarming, 90 percent said understanding of religious values, and they know it's a sin, "said Laila. Described, most of them use contraceptives are sold freely, as much as 12 percent using the method interuptus coitus. 

The facts that have explained the concerns KH Rashid. He said in a bitter tone, "The disaster that continues to befall this nation can be improved, but the moral damage caused by disasters, how to fix it?" Not only KH Rashid, anyone who cares for this nation, of course draw a deep breath. How sadly, the teens understand the teachings of religion, the notion of sin, and the consequences it generated. There must be something wrong on this nation. 

Television, media porn smelly, closer to the teenagers to have sex outside of marriage. VCD and DVD porn so easily obtained for only $ 5000. Once raided, it was free again after the sale. Education system to pursue any figures contributed damage the young generation. 

The survey results should be aware that we, the educators, parents, clergy, managers, television, mass media, and of course also the government. The figures revealed that, perhaps the peak of the iceberg. After this, if we let it continue to take a moral disaster, which happened just nauzubillahdapat our family? Oh God, this is a real disaster and very scary .... Free Teen Sex Indonesia Rampant.

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EARLY MARRIAGE

Without an extension disebutin initials "PD", a young friend with the initials ngelontok this already, because almost every day we see the promo clips soap opera "Early Marriage 'in RCTI, presented by Syahrul Gunawan and Agnetha Faltskog.

This soap opera was so dressed for viewers, especially for adolescents who emang close to the idiom of 'PD' alias confident. Soap operas that tell Mr. Ambassador (played by Rudy Salam) who makes his two children posesive depressed; played Attalarik Syach and Agnetha Faltskog. 60-minute duration of this soap opera story of two brothers who crave affection. Their parents are too busy with their own affairs, so there is no good communication between parent and child. If this already, can not you guess, how wild the kids. So the fair if they then jump in the life that he considers the best way to be selected. Includes free sex. Bablas free. Wes .... hewes hewes, bablas, imanne!

Rating aka impressions of superior value, show soap opera "PD" This is above the wind, the results from the ACNielsen survey period 24-30 June 2001 and then, it has also found that early marriage for 21.8 rating is better than "Wow ... beautiful" his SCTV , which on the weekend slipped to 19th. And in the rankings, Early Weddings are also on the first position, above the "Wow ... beautiful" which ranks second. Early marriage apparently will still occupy the top position. Why is that? Enlargement of the conflict, widening the clarity of characters and events is what makes me curious and waiting to see how confused the parents who are still very young? how the continuation of internal conflicts, which developed into a feud between their respective extern parents couple. (Source: Bulletin Sinetron)

Arguably, soap operas "PD" is to describe the existing reality in the association teenagers today. Should reply saying, Early Marriage rada-rada-like series "Dawson's Creek" was TPI. His theme is not separated from the problem of teenage slang. Only, "PD" is more focused on the phenomena MBA ngebahas aka Married by Accident. How does, if it happened? What Kayak tortured? How to cope with life like that? What about the future of the victim's life and also his son MBA? Why can happen like that? Questions about the adolescent's what makes us avid fond of this soap opera.

Early marriages of teenage life emang really represent. Especially when the teenagers who hang out free already pregnant. While to an abortion was afraid, because I'm so happened gacoannya want to marry him accountable-even by force. Finally, yes, choose candidates to raise their children despite bearing the status of the MBA. However, as the record, allegedly said to Agnes Monica even more proud and ignorant. Imagine, after play in the soap opera "Early Marriage", Agnes becomes the de that the MBA (married by accident) is the best solution to overcome the effects of a fruitful courtship teen pregnancy. Dear, Bener Bener kesleo brain-child!

It is true, the most frightening thing for teens in their free sex is the problem of pregnancy and infectious diseases. Thus, when their courtship very selective and rigorous so that pregnancy does not occur, neither the contracting sexually transmitted diseases teen friends But forget that the root of the problem is precisely that pacarannya activity. Just think, two different types of human being romantic couple, certainly near-deketan pengennya aja. If by chance far, live press the numbers on the phone, or the phone. Then laugh-ketiwi off homesickness, even not rarely interspersed talk "Ngalor-ngidul" which has nothing to do with problems of their slang. And if there is a chance, make an appointment to meet directly. If so already, do not expect you to control yourself. End? Relationship "outside-in" was no possible can you live. Ih, naudzubillahi mindzalik

Courtship = credit adultery

Recrimination, or the pointing-pointing about who is responsible kudu, okay. But remember, we have to jelly and do not accuse of origin, like the American style of government on September 11, yesterday, in which Bush immediately accused the Islamic group was behind the terror. As we know, when it jumbojet five aircraft belonging to U.S. airlines fell and three were successfully destroyed the "symbol" U.S. kedigdayaan; WTC (World Trade Center) and the Pentagon. So, if the problem of the MBA, you alleged that the wrong girl or guy, of course it is not taxable dong. Because, in fact the main problem is that pacarannya activity, pacaranlah culprit. So the kudu accused or appointed nose is the culture of this ignorance. Due to this tradition of relations between men and women become damaged, no longer meaningful and not sacred.

Why do you think feel kudu kok undergo courtship activity? Come on, who feel committed this sin you please answered, but inside each (emang dengerinnya how?), Want to know more closely? Want to have friends talk to vent? To be called behavior? Nyari want a new atmosphere? Loss, if there doski Dunk dianggurin cute? But definitely, already become a lifestyle dating teenagers. Bener, I think if not doing so is considered an ancient fear, horror if deemed squirt, allergies do not sell if a designation, if the title insecure children who do not have a "lust", or afraid of children who have received the predicate mental disorders. Well, anyway there are loads of titles deliberately created so that teens continue to follow-up with the lifestyle of this ignorance. So do not be surprised if all the mass media provide a necessary and must be lived teenagers, and dating is one of them. Pokoke, if not dating, not gaul deh. If no rendezvous, not exciting. Ouch, cash aja teenage friends who come up short of faith can simply believe in this slogan. Gaswat, son of danger, mate.

Do you want to join in. adolescent lifestyle bin untamed wild West? Need you to know, that girl over there, at the age of 17 has not been able gacoan, ortunya restless, including his son dong. So do not be surprised, nor surprise, then if they were given freedom by ortunya to mingle with their male friends with as they please. That way, numbers free sex in a country that emang let happen so, proved high. Now, a case of 'PD' could happen if the relationship between two opposite sex is so close and sticky. Therefore, it is not possible to do begituan when properly maintained and well. While the courtship, you know how its activities? That picture-nyerempet nyerempet act with adultery. And it was clear that it is haram aktivtas adultery. (Surat al-Isra [17]: 32)

Marriages are complicated, simplified slang encyclopedia

Humans often prefer the opposite-turning in evaluating a perbuatan.Sebab, which became the benchmark them in doing just rely on feelings and unwilling to use their minds. As a result, often made dizzy by his own decision. Well, the problem of free association, like the judge that the public good and the bad an action is only seen from whether the action was materially beneficial to him or not. That's one big, brur. Suer. Therefore, what we consider good, who knows even worse in the eyes of God. And vice versa. Allah's Word: "Perhaps you hate something, but it is very good for you, and may be (too) ye love a thing, but it is very bad for you, God knows, and you do not know" (Surat al-Baqara terj.: 216 ).

On second thought, aja kok want to worship hard for mercy, but would instead be given leads the highway. Well, the opposite-opposite emang. Try, to marry must pake aja ngurus diverse administration. Mending if only ngisi doang form, these envelopes with money pake ngisi lubricant all. Nuisance is not it?. Though it was a new step. Next, we were confronted with a regulation that limits the age of marriage in the Marriage Act, continued the prohibition is not allowed to marry while still in school. Ouch, seabrek reason to inhibit pernikahan.Itu including external constraints. In addition, there are also internal constraints, ie, not ready mentally and not yet established an alias is not got money.

For some teenagers can be with the soap opera "PD" This adds further confidence that the MBA is the best way if when they go out too far. Also if not impossible then there is a reckless teenager knocked up his girlfriend when their relationship was not sanctioned by ortunya. Serious is it? And this as evidence that the marriage was difficult, except if the "accident", but strangely, instead dipermudah.Astaghfirallah behavior slang free! This is damaging the democratic system. Here amburadulnya capitalist system. And certainly, not until the "case" Early Marriage This soap opera has inspired the youth then, that courtship tetep go ahead, if until the "event", it's easy, just ask dikawinin aja. Ouch, that way, so we are not afraid anymore of the deed sinners. Bener Bener-ngegampangin really in the business of sin.

Excuse dating people who really are not appropriate, however, because we can not know the opposite sex should be with the courtship, it reasons that are too far-fetched. The evidence of people going out and then continue the relationship with mahligai marriage is not a little that eventually divorce granted, whether it could be the reason that dating could perpetuate a relationship of love because it has come to know the opposite sex? Apparently we should hurry ninggalin dating as an activity that is not justified syara 'and even cause a big problem.

So, anything that is aired by the "PD" whether it's progress of the age, the glamorous life, slang or the other way, but one thing is for sure is being promoted by the soap opera "PD" is the legality or pembolehan going out to do. If the soap opera "PD" pacarannya Gunawan and Dini went too far, then the messages conveyed by the soap is allowed but not until the First Dating MBA. But whose names could not make things worse examples, however the legality of going out through the soap-soap operas such as "PD" does not solve the problem of sex, that is precisely the emergence of other, more complicated problems bin sophisticated.

Early pregnancy is the culmination of this soap opera, and then must continue their early marriage. Then, their parents had agreed to marry them, though with difficulty. Well, you got jelly mate, instead of there, it would poison the teen soap opera that remains dating may, if it matters later pregnancy lately, do not aborted are not human, that's about the message brought by "PD". So if anyone wants to go out Monggo, please, if later pregnancy, the marriage aja! Well, it Bener Bener-oblique way of thinking is insane aliases.

Come Back To Islam

We would have understood that his name is a human teenager, then the discussion about youth can not be separated from the discussion of him as a human. Thus the needs of teenagers would love to opposite sex could not be separated from human discussion, that humans have the potential dynamic of life which inevitably always makes a man active in this life.

The tendency of adolescents to a group, interact with peers and want to be acknowledged its existence is a matter of nature / human, such a tendency is not removed, but must be met, only arranged to meet them. When humans need to eat (which is a potential human / physical needs), we are not forbidden to eat, but when we want to eat, ranging from what to eat, how to get or how to eat is determined rules. Analogous to this, the needs of adolescents to prefer the opposite sex is not eliminated, but regulated.

Therefore we need a rule that no such rules apply now that applied to understand freedom. But according to rules that required a human nature which of course if you appear to know who's more human nature is what makes human beings in this case is God, therefore we must refer to God, how God set the teenager would love to meet the needs of the opposite sex. For God knows better 'things ciptaanya' ie man so that HE has created rules which of course according to human nature and completely finish it. We all believe God omniscient, God kemahatuan course also covers about man and his problem. God thus their berifrman about it: "Do not approach adultery, because adultery is heinous deeds and an evil way" (QS terj.. Al-Isra 32)

Islam not only forbids adultery, fornication approaching any activity that is prohibited as well as adultery credit so that Islam has preventifnya step, for example disyariatkannya Muslim clothing for women (hijab) is not rigorous, not transparent, does not resemble male clothing etc. (terj. Qs . al-Ahzab 53, An-Nuur 31). Other preventive measures such as on the association / interaction between the opposite sex, men, women arrange Islam prohibited without a mahram berduan word of the Prophet, which means: "Let not a man-Duan alone with a woman, without any strange"

Women are not allowed excessive ornate, displaying jewelry in public. Sex is happening for a stimulus if there is a stimulus to engage in sex then there's sex, could be just because the odor stimuli just happened so. For example women were forbidden to wear perfume. "If there are women wearing perfumes, and then passes in a people, and so these people smell the perfume, the woman was a prostitute. (Terj. HR. Annassai)

The tendency of a person of the opposite sex is the potential in this life is instinctive, instincts would emerge if there are stimuli from outside the human self, stimuli that could be thoughts that lead to sexuality or just a reading and / or sexual spectacle. Therefore the size of the frequency of "instinct" of dating depends on a lot-at least you, taking the facts or thinking about dating, if you still watch soap operas such as "PD" then you have the goods lost in her story for sure, become a couple.

Good friend, in the teachings of our religion has been governed by clear, how should we behave and act. Sure that we might survive in the world and the Hereafter. So actually, the marriage in early age is better than an MBA. Marriages of worship, free associate maksiat.Namun, if you're still not able in that direction. Better to avoid going out, frequent fasting, and the focus of study, it was the best solution friend than you going out there, going out here, what got cuman happy doang, khan? Why, brur, happy in this world but in the hereafter you'll torok, ugh. Amendment does not say that the Khan loss? hence the Islamic Koran, let you add an alias PD confident, not its PD-Sahrul and Agnes. (Lbr).

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BENEFITS PUASA Monday - Thursday

BENEFITS PUASA Monday - Thursday. BASED opinions of medical experts, fasting can give various benefits to the practice, among them for peace of mind, overcome stress, increase endurance, and maintain the health and beauty. Fasting than useful for peace of mind to avoid stress, can also be a healthy body and can help cure various diseases.

In addition, fasting can make young or delay aging process. So that the physical condition is always healthy and fit, the organs of the body must get a chance to rest. This may be done by fasting.

Fasting for Muslims is one of the Five Pillars of Islam and is one of the obligatory prayer during Ramadan. For Muslims, fasting is one of worship to be done. There is fasting must be done in the month of Ramadan, but there are also fast-sunna fasting like fasting of David, Arafat fasting, fasting Monday-Thursday, and other sunna fasting.

Several experts from Western countries and Eastern has researched and proved the benefits of fasting. Three experts from the Western non-Muslims have expressed their opinions about the benefits of fasting.

The third person is an expert Allan Cott, MD, an expert from America, Dr. Yuri Nikolayev Director of the diet on a Psychiatric Hospital of Moscow, and Alvenia M. Fulton, Director of the Institute of Healthy Food "Fultonia" in America.

Allan Cott, MD, has brought together the observations and research scientists of the country, then in a book menghimpunnya Why the experienced Fast reprinted 17 times within eight years. In the book, Allan Cott, M.D. disclose various wisdom of fasting, among others:

a. To feel better physically and mentally (to feel better physically and mentally).

b. To look and feel younger (look and feel younger).

c. To clean out the dust (clean body)

d. To lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels (lowering blood pressure and fat levels.

e. To get more out of sex (better able to control the sex).

f. To let the health body itself (make the body healthy by itself).

g. To relieve tension (relax their stress).

h. Sharp to the senses (sensory function sharpening).

i. To gain control of oneself (gain the ability to control themselves).

j. To slow the aging process (slowing the aging process).

Meanwhile, Dr. Yuri Nikolayev assessing the ability to fast causing the person to be forever young, as a discovery (science) the greatest of this century. He says: what do you think is the most important discovery in our time? The Radioactive watches? Exocet bombs? In my opinion the Bigest discovery of our time is the ability to make onself Phisically younger, mentally and spiritually through rational fasting. (In your opinion, is the most important discoveries in this century? Hours radioactive? Exoset bomb? In my opinion, the greatest discovery in this century is the ability of someone to make him stay young physically, mentally, and spiritually, through the rational fasting).

Alvenia M. Fulton, Director of the Institute of Healthy Food "Fultonia" in the United States stated that fasting is the best way to beautify and enhance your natural woman. Fasting produces tenderness and charm charm. Normalizing fasting female functions and re-create the beauty of the body (fasting is the best ladies beautifier, it brings charm and grace poice, it normalizes female functions and reshapes the body contour).

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PUASA has many lessons and benefits for your physical, mental tranquility, and beauty. When fasting, the organs of the body can rest and billions of cells in the body can raise themselves to survive. Fasting serves as a detox to remove dirt, toxins / poisons from the body, rejuvenate the body cells and replace cells that have been damaged by the new and to improve the function of hormones, making skin healthier and increase endurance because the human body has the ability natural therapies.

Fasting can make the skin a fresh, healthy, soft, and radiant. Because, every time the body has energy metabolism, namely the incident energy changes from the nutrients contained in the potential energy in the body. The rest will be stored in the body, kidney cells, skin cells, and eyelids as well as in the form of fat and glycogen.

Humans have a reserve of energy called glycogen. Energy reserves can last for 25 hours. This nutrient reserves at any time will be burned into energy, if the body does not receive food supplies from outside.

When fasting, the energy reserves stored in body organs removed so that the relief respiratory organs and the storage cells. This event is called the rejuvenation of cells.

By rejuvenating your body cells, would be useful to enhance immunity and health of our body and skin. Therefore, people who frequent fast skin will look fresher, healthier, soft, and radiant as the cell rejuvenation process in the body running well.

Food and beverages we consume every day, in addition to containing nutrients useful for our body, also contain toxic materials or poisons which accumulated in the body. Toxic materials or poisons in your body, if it is too much can cause problems in the body, among others, the body becomes easily tired, decreased immune system, so easily hurt.

With fasting, the body will use energy reserves. The use of these reserves of energy cause wasted toxins and cells of the body cleaned. In addition, digestion occurs in the venom expenditure was also due to the digestive equipment to rest so it can clean up, also including the large intestine which is the center of the dirt.

Fasting than useful for detoxification or toxin expenditure process as a whole, is also useful to add strength. This is caused by toxins on cells and tissues have been cleared, so that the organs of the body becomes cleaner and nutrients more easily absorbed into.

Fasting may help improve absorption of nutrients from the food they eat because the digestive tract, before the food is absorbed must undergo a process of change from the first solid to form the components of a highly refined. At the time of fasting, the digestive tract to rest for several hours. In the digestive tract diistirahatkannya would be better to process and absorb the food consumed, so that will be more powerful, healthy, and strong.
Always created conditions so that healthy, fit and pretty when fasting, preferably at sunset or dawn always eat healthy foods that meet the four elements of a healthy diet of five perfect and complete nutritious. In this way, of course, can support our fasting is done. (Surtiningsih, columnist / health observer) ***

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The virtue of Prayer in congregation in the mosque

The virtue of Prayer in congregation in the mosque. Prayers at the mosque for a man greater than prayers at his home. In accordance with the hadeeth of the Prophet Muhammad following:

عن عبد الله بن عمر رضي الله عنهما أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال, "صلاة الجماعة أفضل من صلاة الفذ بسبع وعشرين درجة" متفق عليه.

Abdullah bin Umar ra. that the Prophet SAW said, "Prayer in congregation is better than praying alone by 27 degrees." (Reported Muttafaq 'alaihi)

ولهما عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه "بخمس وعشرين جزءا وكذا للبخاري عن أبي سعيد رضي الله عنه وقال," درجة. "

And history via the second but Abi Hurairah ra. stated, "with 25 parts." And the history according to Abu Said lafadz Bukhari; "degrees."

Some scholars interpret the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad prayed together fadhilah greater than 27 degrees to pray alone or 25 parts, by providing some provisions, which were conducted prayers at the mosque at the beginning of time.

The prayers at home, or in the mosques, but outside of the main prayers, or pray alone but in the mosque, outside the purpose of all the above hadith.

Among fadhilah secret prayers at the mosque are:

1. Before walking to the mosque, when someone makrooh at home, not makrooh in the mosque, he has been rewarded for wudhu'nya.

2. When she wore clothes and perfume with the intention for going to the mosque, then he will get its own reward. Because God Almighty has ordered that a person entered the mosque decorated each.

3. When someone walked into the mosque by foot, each step was a good leg to bring its own reward.

4. When he entered the mosque, someone will get a reward when they read a prayer in the mosque.

5. Still when entering the mosque, he also will be rewarded when he stepped with his right foot.

6. Once inside the mosque, someone will have the opportunity to get a reward from tahiyatul mosque prayer.

7. Then when someone sitting in the mosque waiting for the prayer time, he had somewhat to do when he meniatkannya I'tikaf. According to As-syafi'iyah schools, I'tikaf can be provided with the intention and stay in the mosque, though only for a moment.

8. Once adzan reverb, she also will get a chance to get its own reward by listening adzan and answer. Especially when he himself is doing adzan.

9. After hearing adzan, he'll get a chance to get good again when he read the prayer after adzan.

10. Adzan prayer finished, he'll get another chance to reward qabliyah sunnah prayers.

11. After iqamat buzzed, then the priest set the line, he will be rewarded again when watching the priest and joined ranks to set straight and tight.

12. At the time of congregational prayer performed, he would follow all the good priest movement. If the priest stood up, then he stood up, when the priest bowing, then he bow down, prostrate priest if he prostrate. His actions followed itusudah priest brings its own reward.

13. When the priest came to the reading "waladhdhaallin", he replied, "Subhanallah." The answer was to bring its own reward.

14. He also will get a special reward when he said good-bye to the right and left, than when praying alone at home, or in congregation at home. Because it regards the prayer for the people in the right and left. And because the mosque congregation of more, then the prayer will receive much more.

15. Obligatory prayers finished, he will be rewarded again when reading some lafadz dhikr or prayer.

16. Then the next opportunity is when he ba'diyah praying sunnah prayer.

17. Inside the mosque, he would have met with many other congregational prayers. When meeting and greeting, he will get its own reward.

18. With a greeting, when he also shook hands, then he will get its own reward.

19. Her smile to a fellow brother is charity. And this will menambahlagi chance to be rewarded.

20. As he parted with his fellow worshipers in the mosque, then he will get a reward when greeting or returned the greeting.

21. He also will be rewarded if followed by shaking hands when going to split up with fellow Muslims.

22. When he came home from the mosque, he read a prayer out of the mosque. It adds more reward.

23. In the mosque open opportunities for berinfaq, so when he took the opportunity, he will get special reward from berinfaq.

24. Inside the mosque is often held sermons or tribunal science (Kultum). When he listened to the advice and delivery of science with the intention of running the command of Allah and studying it because it is obligatory, then he will get its own good.

25. When he came out, he stepped with his left foot. One more additional reward will be earned.

26. When he returned, he took another path that is not equal to the bypassed roads when going to the mosque. This is the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad that would bring its own reward.

27. Every step a foot back from the mosque, then he will get another reward of its own.

Grain-buitr chance to pick a reward in the texts is not obtained from the sharih and unified, but from the various propositions that were strewn-hoarse, and collected. Of course there were not only the 27 part course, there will be many more.

However, the above description merely provides one example of ijtihad of the scholars version when describing the secret of why the prayer in congregation in the mosque is better than any other prayer.

Of course not all people who pray at the mosque in congregation will have all the opportunity. Because not all do the things above.

But the point we want to give exposure that behind keutaman prayers at the mosque, there are logical reasons to be drawn as a foundation.

At the very least, the things above will give reasons why the prayer in congregation at the main mosque to do more.

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